How to become authentic
At its core its a decision... no matter what.. I feel..
Sometimes, as I moved through life, I felt a lack of depth. I felt emotionally disconnected from what I was doing and sometimes even from the people around me. Only after years did I realize that this emptiness was a direct result of decisions that weren’t aligned with my innermost feelings. This text reflects on authentic decision-making and offers guidance to reconnect with your inner self.
What Is Authentic Being?
Authentic being means acting in harmony with your own feelings.
Our feelings are our perception, our individual truth about circumstances and situations. When we make decisions that disregard our inner feelings, we become alienated from them, creating a world that feels unfamiliar and detached. This leads to discomfort, which others around us may also sense, potentially amplifying the unease.
How Do I Cultivate Authentic Being?
The first and final step is to give space to your innermost feelings and follow them.
We create this space by:
Simply perceiving our inner emotional world.
Thanking ourselves for this connection.
If you’re ready, try this activation exercise. Say the following words and truly mean them; then reflect inward:
"I choose to give space to my innermost feelings and perceive them."
"I act in harmony with my innermost feelings. Thank you."
How Do I Know If I Am Authentic or Moving Toward Authenticity?
A sign of this connection is a sense of inner depth. Initially, this depth may feel heavy, but notice and accept it. This heaviness is temporary—beneath it lies lightness, which we can gradually develop.
During this process, memories may surface where you acted against your inner feelings. That’s okay. Start by noticing these memories and thanking them for appearing. Here are some guiding questions to help you engage with these emotions:
When and how have I acted against my inner feelings?
How do my external circumstances mirror my inner feelings—and vice versa?
What do I need to act in alignment with my inner feelings?
Ultimately, it is through action, driven by deeper feelings, that we create authentic experiences and feel authentic ourselves. Others will recognize and respond to this authenticity.
Exercise to Strengthen Your Authenticity
Take a deep breath. Close your eyes and focus inward on your breathing.
Ask yourself what you need to give more space to your innermost feelings and follow them. Allow the answer to come to you.
Thank yourself for this awareness. Imagine giving yourself what you need and letting it flow through you. For example, if you realize you need courage, say, “Thank you. I give myself courage.” You can also call upon the source by saying, “Source, please let courage flow through me.” Visualize a light embodying the quality and color of courage flowing through you.
Breathe calmly and enjoy this moment for as long as you like.
If you wish, repeat steps 2–3 or go further by imagining your life after consistently making decisions aligned with your innermost feelings. Be free and bold in your vision. Observe and thank yourself for the positive changes.
Take a deep breath. Savor the vision or thank yourself for the gained insights, then gently return to the present moment and open your eyes.
Act in accordance with the feelings you’ve gained.
Additional Notes
You have all the time in the world and always have the present moment. If you struggle to form a clear connection or wish to deepen this practice, I offer sessions to support you.
It’s worth noting that, in the past, we may have systematically created unauthentic spaces through disconnected actions. These spaces often feel constricting and cold. In such environments, open-hearted, emotional people are often manipulated, and strict hierarchies prevail. Being born into such spaces can make it challenging to act in alignment with our emotions and reconnect.
Through authentic, connected decisions, we leave these spaces and dissolve them—for ourselves and others. While this process may take time, remember: your feelings are valid and important. If you feel stuck in such a space, know that you’re not alone. Let’s connect if you feel the need for support.